Can Men and Women Maintain a Platonic Relationship Without There Being Any Intimacy?

A platonic relationship is considered to be a friendship between two individuals who do not share a sexual or intimate desire for one another. Men and women have to set up boundaries immediately within a friendship because temptation can influence someone to have lustful thoughts towards a person they considered to be a close friend. I do not know too many friendships between a man and woman where one person does not catch romantic feelings for the other person. It is not impossible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex, but there has to be a set of boundaries that both individuals should not cross unless there is a mutual agreement to consider getting into a serious relationship with one another.

I believe for someone to be in healthy relationship with their significant other, they have to be their friend first. You cannot meet someone, instantly fall in love with them, and jump into a romantic relationship without getting know the person. Many people make the mistake of not learning how to be a friend first before they move to being a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife. It may not be a good idea to be friends with the opposite sex all of the time because there is always the possibility that one of the friends will catch feelings for the other and you might get upset when you discover they are not even attracted to you in that way.

It is very difficult to remain friends with someone you like, but you know the friendship will never go behind anything else because the other person has already made it clear that there are no future intentions to get into a relationship with you. For women it can be so easy for us to be attracted to a guy who is a close friend of ours because he shares the same interests as you, but there may be a disconnect somewhere that he only will be beneficial as a friend, not a boyfriend. Once two people who are friends make the decision to start dating one another, there is a chance that if the relationship does not work out, your friendship will be over.

It can be even harder to remain friends with someone if they start dating and soon get into a serious relationship. It is always important to keep in mind that their significant other may be suspicious of what type of friendship you have with their boyfriend or girlfriend. There are friends who claimed to be “just friends” but have slept together in the past and do not tell their significant other about the sexual encounters they have had with their friend.

If you are in a relationship you should not be spending more time with your friends than you do with your boyfriend or girlfriend. If your friend cannot respect your relationship by being considerate to the fact that you do not have time anymore to be around them frequently, then you should not be friends with them. There is no use of having a friend of the opposite sex and they cannot even be friends with the person you are involved with. To be honest, having friends of the opposite sex is only acceptable if the friendship is strictly platonic and the person can be friends with your spouse.

In my opinion, I do not see the need to be friends with the opposite sex unless I see myself being in relationship with a particular guy in the future. I cannot be friends with a guy that I have no intentions of being in a serious relationship with. I am not the type of individual who will manipulate someone to believe I have feelings for them, but in the back of my mind I know I will never be attracted to this person. Being friends with the opposite sex comes with a lot of drama if it is not handle in the proper manner. You have to set boundaries in the beginning and tell an individual your intentions towards the friendship. No one should have to guess whether or not you will ever consider getting into a relationship with them.

Why be friends with the opposite sex if you know that you have no intentions whatsoever to date them. I remember when I was a teenager in high school, there was this one particular guy that I had been friends with from freshman to senior year. I thought this guy was actually my friend, but really he was just trying to find a way to convince me to be his girlfriend. I had no idea that this guy had any feelings for me because maybe I never paid attention to him or I just didn’t care. There is always a chance of someone’s feelings getting hurt in the process and the guy ended up getting upset with me because I told him I only saw him as a friend.

The friendship immediately ended and I had to make sure to not put myself in a difficult situation like that ever again. I am not saying it is impossible to be friends with the opposite sex, but you need to make sure you are on the same page with the other person. There is no need to string along a friendship that has no chance at all of becoming a romantic relationship.

Everyone does not receive rejection well and you have to take in consideration that there is a chance the friendship you have established with someone will end because you have no romantic feelings for them. Everyone is not meant to be your friend because some individuals have ulterior motives. Be careful of always trying to be friends with the opposite sex because you do not know if the other person will be fine with just being an acquaintance.

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One comment

  1. UduakObong says:

    Perfect write up. Well done dear.

    Liked by 1 person

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