Why Do Some People Cut Their Family and Friends Off When They Get into a Relationship?

Why do people choose to abandon their friends and family members when they start dating someone new? Everyone has a group of individuals they considered to be a part of their support system who will be there for them in their good and bad times. It is natural when you are dating someone to spend quality time with them. It is important to make time to spend with your friends and family as well. Some people get bit with the love bug and forget all about the people who truly care about them. Their relationship with their boyfriend or girlfriend becomes their main focus. There needs to be a balance in your life by maintaining your friendships and your love life. I do not know why many people forget about their friends when they are in a relationship, but they are first people they run to when the relationship does not work out. It is not fair to expect a friendship to strive if a person is paying no attention to their group of friends and are only around when they are single.

If a person is spending all of their free time around their boyfriend or girlfriend, this is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You do not need to be spend 24 hours out of the day around your significant other. Being around your significant other all the time will cause one or both individuals in the relationship to be clingy and needy. There are some people who end up getting into a relationship with someone who has a problem with them spending time with their friends. If a person has a problem with you having a friends, then this relationship will eventually end bad because one person wants to control the other person and give them ultimatums over things that should even be an issue.

In other circumstances, a person might just separate themselves from their friends because they become emotionally attached to the person they are dating too quickly, which causes them to lose focus on their priorities. Most friends are going to want to have a conversation sooner or later with their friend about their concerns with their friendship. It can be difficult to be friends with someone who is never around and turns into a different person when they are in a relationship.

Sometimes you might not want to hear what your friends have to say about your love life because you automatically will think they are jealous, which may not even be true in many cases. Friends are going to tell you their concerns about your wellbeing whether you like it or not. You don’t need to stop communicating and hanging around your friends when you are in a relationship. There will be friends who will not tolerate the disrespect and will call you out on your constant mood swings every time you are involved with someone. Think of like this, if a relationship does not work out who is going to be there when you need someone to talk to or to just need a shoulder to cry on. Don’t abandon people who care about you and want to see you do good in life. If you continue to not make time for your friends, then do not be surprised if some of them make the decision to stop being in your life.

You can’t expect people to always be there in your time of need, but any other time you are not around when they need you. You should never have to feel like you have to choose between being in a romantic relationship or maintaining your relationship with your friends. You have to be able to compromise by making time for everyone who is important in your life. Don’t cut your friends and family off when you get into a relationship because there is going to be a time when you are going to need their help.

If you are the type of person who does not respond well to criticism from your friends consider taking the time to see why they feel as though your friendship with them has become strained. Your friends might see flaws with the person you are dating that you may have not recognized or have purposely ignored. Sometimes being a friend to someone requires that you don’t always state your opinion about their love life and give them the opportunity to see if a person they have become infatuated with has the right intentions.

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4 comments

  1. Love this post! I wrote something similiar and said it can be hard to be friends with people who are in a relationship, so we have a similiar opinion! 🙂
    Especially young people can be clingy to their partner and forget about everyone else and I honestly can’t understand why …

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  2. I love this post! I actually wrote something similiar just yesterday, so we have a similiar opinion! 🙂 I think it’s truly unhealthy to only focus on your love partner and ignore everyone else, untill that love connection breaks …

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    • alliejay95 says:

      I agree some people will literally stop talking to their friends so that they can pursue relationship with someone who they might not be even equally yoked with. Friends have feelings as well and it is not fair to push them to the side and be their for them when they need you.

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      • sorry for writing twice, I thought the web connection on my phone didn’t send either of the replies, ooops! but yeah, I totally agree with you and it truly isn’t fair!

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