During the leap year season, it has become a tradition for women who are in a serious relationship to propose to their boyfriend. I do not know who created this ritual for a woman to believe that it is acceptable to propose to a man. The gender roles have definitely switched over time and women are starting to act like more and more like men. I do not feel it is necessary to even consider proposing to a man because God did not give women the responsibility to decide if a man is worthy enough to be asked for their hand in marriage.
I cannot find one chapter in the bible that encourages a woman to propose to a man. The reason why a woman should not propose to a man because it comes off as if the woman is being desperate and has become impatient in wanting to wait on God to send the right person for her. Each and every leap year, women are being showcased on media platforms for proposing because it is considered to be a norm of society.
Society always makes these ridiculous trends for individuals to follow and people need to take the time out to realize if these trends are setting them up to fail. I am really getting tired of this belief where women have to be in competition with a man. Men and women were not designed to be in competition with one another. We were designed to help each other.
If even looks weird, when a woman proposes to a man because the woman is performing an act that a man is supposed to do. I understand as a woman that when you get in a relationship with a man, you pretty much have planned out the wedding in your head. In reality, the man has to see a woman’s worth and has to be ready to take the next step, which is marriage.
Women need to stop pressuring men to married them and just sit back and allow God to guide the relationship. If you are meant to be married one day, then it will happen. The problem that is occurring in society is that women are becoming too impatient and feel as though time is dwindling down and need to make a move before it is too late.
God’s timing is always right, whether it is today or 10 years from now, women need to focus on getting themselves together instead of trying to go out of their way trying to make a man commit to them.
In Genesis 2:21-23 states, “So the Lord God made Adam fall into a deep sleep, and he took out one of the man’s ribs. Then after closing the man’s side, the Lord made a woman out of the rib. The Lord God brought her to man, and the man exclaimed, here is someone like me! She is part of my body, my own flesh and bones. She came from me, a man. So I will name her Woman!” (Contemporary English Version).
I want all women to understand that you may be in a season of singleness and if you have the desire to be married one day, God will present you to your husband when the time is right. God had revealed Eve to Adam because she was his bride and he instantly knew she was a part of him. God gave men the spiritual discernment to identify their bride. Eve was hidden from Adam until God felt it was the right time to reveal her to him. Women need to understand that it is not in our mechanism to propose to a man because we are the reward. A man needs to prove himself worthy of your trust and respect.
There was a time where men put in effort to show the woman they intended to married that they were deserving of being loved. Somehow the roles have changed and now many men think they are the prize and a woman has to woo a man. A man needs to court a woman and prove that he is capable of being a leader for their family. A woman is supposed to submit to her husband, but that can only happen if a man knows that it is his responsibility to lead his wife and children.
If a man wants to propose to you, he will. You shouldn’t have to pressure anyone to want to be in a relationship with you. A proposal should be orchestrated by a man because he is designed to know whether or not a woman he is courting is marriage-material.
Forget about all this leap year traditions because women should not ever have to stoop so low to even ask a man to marry them. Each woman is a diamond and maybe your husband-to-be has not found you yet, don’t give up on love. Marriage is a serious commitment that a man should ask a woman, not the other way around.