Are You Ashamed of Being Single During the Holiday Season?

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Many singles dread the holiday season because it usually is the time when they have to be reminded how lonely they are by their friends and family members. The holiday season is time to build fond memories with those that you love the most, but instead of many singles being content with the season that they are in, most become sad or depressed because they feel as though they are missing something in their life, which can be having a significant other. It can be very difficult to be around friends and family members who are married and have kids because that’s what most single people want…a family and a legacy to create to pass down to their children and so on. I think being single really hits home for some people who have been in a relationship with someone and they always did activities together during the holidays. I can definitely understand that if a person was used to being a relationship during the holidays and find themselves single in the next moment, it can be hard to grasp the concept of being by yourself.

Being that Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I am sure that there are millions of singles who will be spending the holidays alone, but do not worry yourself because maybe you were placed in a season of singleness because you need to learn how to love yourself more and that there will always be individuals who will come and go out of your life, but they taught you a life lesson that you should cherish and not have an regrets about. I know it gets annoying at times to go around your family during the holidays and being asked are you dating anyone, when are you going to settle down, or etc. You really do not have to give anyone an answer as to why you are single because it is no one’s business, but yours. If you know it or not the holidays is called cuffing season which means normally many guys are seeking to get in a relationship because the seasons are changing and the cold weather has come. I do not know why some guys want to jump into a relationship that probably is not going to last, but choose to make themselves believe that they need someone to cuddle or keep warm with. If you can’t learn how to be single all year round, then you are a very dependent person. Don’t idolized other people’s relationships and make yourself believe you deserve what they have.

Don’t wake up or Thanksgiving or Christmas morning feeling insecure about yourself because you do not have anyone. Every event that occurs has happened for a reason, you are single because there things you need to perform on your own before God makes the decision to send the right person for you. I can correlate a relationship to a present under a Christmas tree. You can get so excited about waking up on Christmas morning and ready to open up every gift your loved ones got for you. You open the gifts and realize some of the gifts that you were given were not things you asked for. Being single is a gift that you probably did not ask for or want to be in. Instead of dreading the holidays every time it comes around each year, learn how to accept the fact that you might not be ready to be involved with someone again and take the time to figure out what you really want out of life. I think we all imagine that when we get into a relationship everything just going to be perfect and nothing will ever go wrong. Maybe in the movies a relationship can go that way, but in real-life it’s the complete opposite. I don’t get down in the dumps because I am not in a relationship because I have learned how to be content and be happy with the stage I am currently in. Dwelling on the past will get you nowhere. Thinking about the times you spent with an ex during the holidays can be unhealthy. It is unhealthy because you are allowing your past to interfere with your future. No single person wants to be questioned about their love life. Many singles are not comfortable talking about love or relationships with others. You never know what someone might have went through went they were in a relationship with a particular person.

Even christmas songs favor those who are in a relationships. Mariah Carey’s All I Want For Christmas” is the epitome of the holiday love song. I do not think I ever heard a christmas song about being single, not one. Society wants individuals to believe that you have a problem if you are not in a relationship. Everyone was not designed to fall in love. No matter how many christmas movies or songs you hear and watch that glamorizes falling in love, it is just not meant for every human being to have. The holidays should be a time to appreciate the things you have in your life and not so much the things you do not have. Having a roof over your head, clothes on your back, food in your house, and money in your pocket are gifts from our Creator. I think there are many gifts we have in our lives that we take for granted on a daily basis and may not view as a gift at all. No matter how many negative displays you see of being single during the holidays, there will always be people who do not agree with the lifestyle you have. Embrace your singleness and enjoy the gift of revelation God has presented you during your time as a single because you may not be able to get it again if you get married. There is a reason why God wants singles to grow closer to him, but many people will not realize the gifts God has for them until they are able to release the demons keeping them from being happy. Hope you all have an amazing Thanksgiving and may the Lord be with you all.

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